Dating a guy just out of a long term relationship
This was very stressful for him, but he said he didn't regret his decision.
After he initially told his girlfriend that he wanted to split up, our relationship took a new form.
He said he had fallen in love with me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Basically, I want to have a close relationship that leads to marriage and a family, and originally he seemed open to the idea of doing things differently than he did with this other woman.
We tried to hold off but started becoming romantically involved while he was still splitting up and dealing with the "divorce." Some days were wonderful; others were unhappy because he was very stressed out about all the changes in his life. We are both successful professionals and having children is what I want but not a "deal-breaker" if he can't overcome his reluctance to make the sacrifices necessary to raise children.
Why is because I broke up with her and was already kinda done with the relationship before it officially ended.
Some of my friends thought I was rushing things, but I wasn't. But if I hadn't been ready for that breakup I would probably of not been ready near as fast.
He didn't cross any lines with me, but I pulled back from flirting because I had no interest in getting involved with someone who was already in a relationship.One thing I will say is don't not go out with someone just because you just got out of a LTR.If you really don't feel ready, then don't.I think the healthier dating usually starts after 3-6 months.At that point I wasn't talking about my ex at all and could see the girl as a potential partner and not just a pretty face to mend my wounds.
I forced myself to be patient and had very limited contact with him. The most important thing to me is that I share my life and be married to someone who really cares about me.