Dating advice shy
Now, I know that every time a woman chooses you on Plenty of Fish you’re going to see wedding bells in your future but that’s probably not going to happen.
You have to be prepared for rejection because in the dating world rejection is quite common, especially in online dating where some woman is always thinking that no matter how good you might be, there is someone better around the corner at the next mouse click.
We try to help our members get into the dating world easily by supporting a huge community of shy people looking for dates and by giving them dating advice, but what it really comes down to is each individual putting effort into meeting singles.
If you have a fear of talking with strangers then you're going to need to confront that fear, but it will be a gradual progress with escalating difficulty: beginning your chatting experience online, and then moving into the real world later when you're more comfortable with one another.
But by making myself available and doing something where women hang out it became so easy, even for a shy guy like me, to meet women who were kind, decent, centered and calm - because of their yoga - to ask them out.
You know what the fisherman always says, “Fish where the fish are”.
We’re all complex sophisticated gay men, and we’re more than just one personality trait.
Identify your other qualities and bring those to the table when you’re chatting to your date.
For example, let him know you’re interested in him early on, but don’t ask him out on a date until the second or third time you run into him.”You can't really "make" someone fall in love with you, but you can be very clear about your interest in them.
Are you wondering how to take things to the next level with that shy cutie?
Shy guys can be perplexing— they may not openly let you know they like you or ask you out, so you'll have to be willing to make the first move in order to date them.
If you’re inexperienced at dating then get experience.
Sign up for all the free dating sites and have someone take flattering photos. Forget about dating with the intent of starting a relationship - simply meet for coffee and talk, or go for a walk, or do something with them. With this exercise your goal isn’t romance, it’s experience.
This article was co-authored by Klare Heston, LICSW.